Love is all about caring and sharing but are you able to find quality time for your loved one and invest in that relationship that matters the most to you. Here is a quick guide to deepen your relationship and add that sparkle in it.
Compliment More Than Complain
If something genuinely upsets you, speak up. Make an effort to express your appreciation for your partner with specific and sincere compliments. It’s important to understand that we are humans and yes we do make mistakes, and there is always a scope of improvement.
Focusing on the positive
You will always find what you look for. Just as you can’t expect to be happy all the time, you shouldn’t expect your relationship to be at a continuous high. When you make a long-term commitment to someone you have to be willing to ride the highs, as well as the lows, together; the mantra is to stay positive no matter what.
Don’t Go To Bed Mad
There are arguments in every relationship. It’s crucial to face issues and work through the hard times together. However, pick and choose your battles wisely, the resentment can build up around nothing, and you might probably end up being irritated by your partner without even remembering why. Resolve your differences/issues before you go to bed, or resolve to let them go.
Taking trips down memory lane
It’s not at all a bad idea to sit down together on one Sunday afternoon and reminisce past events. Try this out whenever you feel your relationship needs a boost. Psychologists say that by reliving memories out loud to your partner, it actually changes your mind-set, and how you think about your relationship.Â
Not trying to change each other
When you fell in love and decided to commit for lifetime, you loved the person whatever for what they were, so why expecting them to change now just because the situation has changed. What’s important is the feeling of togetherness and knowing that you are there for each other come what may. Rather than trying to fight the personality style, focus on each other’s strengths.
Give your partner space
We want closeness, but we also want space. The key is to find that sweet spot at which we feel the warmth that comes from being in a relationship, while at the same time allowing each partner to have enough space so that neither one feels like they’re being pricked by the other’s spines (feelings of lost individuality, feeling crowded, and so on).
Allow yourself to be vulnerable
Vulnerability holds the key to emotional intimacy, it is about being honest with how one feels, about our fears, about our need, and asking for what we need. It’s allowing ourselves to be truly seen by our partner, warts and all.
