Sometimes when you’re around someone who gives you butterflies in your stomach, it’s hard to remember how to say words or how to say something that doesn’t sound totally weird and creepy.
As long as you take a deep breath, remain calm and act confident, starting a conversation with your crush really isn’t so bad. In fact, it may work out only to your benefit! And if it doesn’t, at least you know that you gave it a shot. Plus, once you learn how to break the ice, talking to your crush in the future will be easier – at least a little bit. So check out these 10 tips on how to start a conversation and talk to your crush.
Be Calm and Confident
If you’re going to break the ice and start a conversation, you have to be confident. Mumbling and blushing through the only thing isn’t ideal, although it happens. Try to be as confident and relaxed as you can be. Pretend you’re talking to a close friend. Just try to relax as much as possible. And if you’re not relaxed? Fake it ’till you make it.
Make Eye Contact
Staring at the floor as you talk is not only going to be really impolite and weird, but it’s also going to confuse your crush. Even if it makes you blush, make eye contact as you approach and when you talk. Force yourself to do it! It will show that you’re confident and it makes for an overall better conversation.
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Don’t Act Stupid About Things You’re Smart About
First of all, people can usually tell when someone is being genuine and if your crush thinks you’re being fake. You shouldn’t try to pretend you’re into something. Find a topic you feel comfortable discussing and go from there.
Use School (Or Work) To Your Advantage
If you guys are in the same class, or classes, then perfect – you’ve already got an in! Catch up with him/her as he/she is walking out the door and say something like, “Hey, do you know what we’re supposed to do for this homework assignment/test?”
The same goes for work – you’ve already got plenty to talk about, so just pick something easy.
Ask About A Mutual Interest
Maybe you saw him/her reading your favorite book or maybe you overheard him/her talking about a movie you also saw just last week. Or maybe you noticed he/she was listening to a band that you also like. Whatever it is, take a mutual interest and run with it. These are such easy ice-breakers and are almost guaranteed to start a convo.
Try A Simple Compliment
I’m not saying you have to run up to your crush and be all like, “you’re a sexy beast” but a small, innocent compliment could be a perfect way to start talking. It doesn’t come off as too desperate or too flirty but it will still pique his/her interest
Ask To Borrow A Pencil
Asking to borrow something is another great and easy way to start up a conversation. Just make sure you don’t let things end there. Say something like, “Hey, do you have a pencil I can borrow?” and then go into something else like, “Oh, cool watch” or something like that. You get what I’m saying.
Practice Makes Perfect!
If you’re seriously freaking out and you sort of already know what you want to say, try practicing in front of a mirror before you actually speak to your crush. You might feel really silly, but it might make you feel more comfortable with the words so that you’re less likely to stutter or mumble.
Try To Avoid Boring Small Talk
Please try to think of something else to say other than, “Wow, it’s cold out there, huh?” I know this is an easy way to start talking, but it’s just kind of boring and honestly not very memorable. Try to come up with something more creative and use the weather as a last resort.
Remember To Smile
Anytime you talk to your crush, remember to have a big smile on your face. Smiling will make you seem much more approachable and easy to talk to.Â