‘Boy from reputed Gurgaon school faces allegations of posting lewd comments about fellow girl students on the school server.’
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Another hard-hitting news strikes us. Children from reputed schools are increasingly getting involved with bullying and wrong behaviors of alarming propensities. Harassment, calling names, carrying weapons to school, pornographic visuals to mental and physical torture – school life has indeed evolved to a different meaning.
Conversations with school students from New Delhi NCR brings forth shocking extents to which students go to settle scores. A culture of nonchalance seems to have permeated. A rise in aggression—physical and psychological, school gangs, torture on social networking sites is becoming commonplace.
Child psychologist are of the opinion that teachers, parents and students have to be sensitised to the changing shades of bullying. Earlier, it was innocent and harmless but now with technology the definitions have changed.
Most students admit to physical fights being outside school premises. The fact, however, remains that the it isn’t a school or parent issue – it’s the mindset which needs to be tackled in a wholesome manner.
Abusive language is the easiest to catch. For most, bad language is practically a non-issue. Class II and III kids are using words which they have heard from their seniors without even knowing what they mean.
There is no doubt that there is a perceptible change in the way students interact with one another due to exposure.As guardians, the least we can do to sensitize our children, is to continuously be involved with their growth. Here are tips to help.
- Talk, talk and talk. In today’s times, alienation happens easily. Ask about their day at school, social events, classmates and any problems they have.
- Give positive feedback when they behave well, promotes self-esteem. Confident kids are less likely to be picked on, and they’re also better at shrugging off bullying if it happens.
- Build trust so that they can confide anything – good or bad – without expecting over reaction.
- Practice parental monitoring for cyber usage.
- Limit screen time.
- Be aware of their social circles.
- Establish rapport with your child’s teachers, principal and counsellors.
- Educate them not to give out their passwords. Unauthorized access your child’s accounts can do major damage.
- Not post personal information that can be used to identify them or tell bullies how to contact them.
- Teach how to block and report cyber-bullying.
- Sensitize to solve problems without violence and praise them when they do so.
- Take bullying seriously when your child reports such instances.
- Stop bullying right away, even if your child is the one doing it.
- Encourage them to help others. Builds compassion.
- Unintentionally, don’t display such behaviours yourself. If your children see you hit, ridicule, or gossip, they are likely to do so themselves.
- Let them empathize. Privileges can be daunting. Take them to NGO’s, understand hardships.
It’s a tough world out there. Vigilance, alertness, involvement and educating about life skills can help us cross the hurricane – unharmed and unaffected.