Reasons why you are single at 30

When you are in your 20’s, you feel like you have your whole life ahead of you. You date, you have a good time, have a good laugh more often than not, but feel you have time on your side. You have probably dated a bit, and think you know what you may want in a mate. You might not be interested in seriously settling down yet, but by your late 20s it’s not the farthest from your mind.

Whatever the case may be, there are numerous reasons why you may still be single, whether by choice or not. NewsMobile presents you some of the most common reasons why you may still be single at 30:

You have a ‘routine’. 

Routines can be comforting and safe, but they can also be incredibly limiting. When your life is a routine, you never leave your comfort zone and break out of your own little bubble. If you want to meet someone new or simply spark some excitement and novelty back in your life, switch up your routine and break out of your rut.

You are holding on to your last breakup. 

Breaking up is hard to do, and sometimes it can be very hard to let go of the bitterness and the pain from your last relationship. However, carrying that resentment and fear along with you will only serve to make it harder for you to meet someone new. Your negative energy will be felt a mile away, and most people aren’t interested in dating someone who is clearly not over their ex.

You don’t spend any time looking for love. 

Looking for love is an activity like anything else. If you don’t put the time into it, you aren’t going to get anything out of it. If your routine is home-office-gym-bed, you aren’t giving yourself much opportunity to find love, and you aren’t focusing any energy or passion into your search. Remember, love isn’t just going to come up behind you and conk you on the head while you are on the treadmill!

You shut down after a boring first date. 

If you don’t feel immediately feel a connection with someone, it’s tempting to simply shut down and never call that person again. After all, there were no sparks, right? While chemistry is important, it’s also important to realize that first dates can often be a bit awkward and stilted. Go on one more date and give them one more chance to wow you before you call it quits. What do you have to lose?

You don’t enjoy dating. 

If you don’t like going on dates, it’s going to be almost immediately obvious to your new match. You might seem anxious, ill-at-ease, or simply uncomfortable. If that sounds familiar, it might be time to do some soul-searching. Find out what you hate about dating (whether it’s nerves or whether it’s distrust due to bad experiences) and then look into ways to help troubleshoot those issues. At the end of the day, your dates are only going to be as fun and exciting as you make them!

You don’t ask your date the right questions. 

When you meet someone new, it’s customary to ask the usual questions: What do you do? Where do you live? What are your hobbies? However, try asking some unexpected but revealing questions like Are you close with your brothers and sisters? What’s the most daring thing you ever did? What is the most memorable vacation you ever had?